Band Aids upon Band Aids - this describes the common method of treating maladies. A large part of the medical community only treats symptoms, and likewise in the field of psychology/psychiatry. Yet, increasingly there are medical professionals who are discontent to apply Band Aids to problems that are much deeper.
The reason that this issue is important to me, and why I have looked into it extensively is was because a notable section of counselors, book writers, and therapists are trying to use Band Aids to cure sexual addiction.
I got a phone call recently from one of the partners on my team. He had just listened to a radio broadcast on a nationally known talk show. The host was interviewing an author who wrote a book addressing sexual addiction. My friend exclaimed that although the author said some good things, everything revolved around setting up boundaries to avoid temptation. As far as he could tell, all this famous author/counselor knew was surface management and behavior modification: Don't go here; don't look there!
I advocate boundaries. We all need them, we all have to have them; but do we set boundaries from a standpoint of defeat and oppression, or from victory and freedom?
So what are some of the root issues that drive sexual addictions? Anything can be an open door to sexual dependency, but I'll address two examples of general categories that have several branching issues under them.
Deep inner pain comes from shame. When a man carries the unresolved pain of shame with him, it will result in behaviors that the mind concocts to shield the pain. Though shame can be translated into any form of addiction, it often results in sexual cravings as a fix the mind creates to medicate the pain.
Another one of the many general categories of root issues is rejection. Most sexual addicts suffer from some form of rejection in their life. Sexual dependency is an intimacy disorder and therefore living out of the filter of rejection exacerbates sexual cravings-again, the mind's way of giving medicine to the pain.
These are just two of many examples of root issues that may be the perpetrators of sexual addiction. But you can imagine how futile it is to try to conquer the drive for lust without dealing first with the root of the addiction. It truly would be like putting Band Aids on Band Aids.
The reason that this issue is important to me, and why I have looked into it extensively is was because a notable section of counselors, book writers, and therapists are trying to use Band Aids to cure sexual addiction.
I got a phone call recently from one of the partners on my team. He had just listened to a radio broadcast on a nationally known talk show. The host was interviewing an author who wrote a book addressing sexual addiction. My friend exclaimed that although the author said some good things, everything revolved around setting up boundaries to avoid temptation. As far as he could tell, all this famous author/counselor knew was surface management and behavior modification: Don't go here; don't look there!
I advocate boundaries. We all need them, we all have to have them; but do we set boundaries from a standpoint of defeat and oppression, or from victory and freedom?
So what are some of the root issues that drive sexual addictions? Anything can be an open door to sexual dependency, but I'll address two examples of general categories that have several branching issues under them.
Deep inner pain comes from shame. When a man carries the unresolved pain of shame with him, it will result in behaviors that the mind concocts to shield the pain. Though shame can be translated into any form of addiction, it often results in sexual cravings as a fix the mind creates to medicate the pain.
Another one of the many general categories of root issues is rejection. Most sexual addicts suffer from some form of rejection in their life. Sexual dependency is an intimacy disorder and therefore living out of the filter of rejection exacerbates sexual cravings-again, the mind's way of giving medicine to the pain.
These are just two of many examples of root issues that may be the perpetrators of sexual addiction. But you can imagine how futile it is to try to conquer the drive for lust without dealing first with the root of the addiction. It truly would be like putting Band Aids on Band Aids.
Bruce Lengeman is a pastor, counselor, business motivation speaker, and the author of several works. He has a passion for seeing people set free and living to the fullness God has for them. He has worked in ministry for over 30 years and has had the privilege of seeing countless lives changed by the Lord.
To check out his book on destroying sexual addiction at the root and for various resources, and to schedule a speaking event with Bruce, go to http://www.tokillalion.com.
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